It is time for another real mama profile!
I have known Janelle for a little while and always wondered how she navigated her working mum life. Whilst her son is now a young adult, she has spent many years doing the juggle. Here is her story.
Tell us about your working mum life thus far.
I went back to work in a company when my son was only a couple of months old. It was a challenge. When my son was 8 years old, I decided to start my own business. This was the perfect balance for me as it then gave me the flexibility to spend more quality time with my son, whilst also growing my career.
What is the one thing that you believe has helped you most with your working/mum juggle?
The wonderful support of my husband has been crucial, together with a positive mindset. We are all wearing many hats in our life & it is important that we are our own best coach. Mums can be such givers which is beautiful but if we don’t fill up our own bucket of self-love, then we can’t give as much of ourselves to others.
What advice would you give to new working mums?
Be kind to yourself. As parents we are always learning. Our children can be our best teachers so be open & flexible to learn from them. There is no such thing as perfection. We are all on our own personal journey of growth. Embrace mistakes & celebrate your learnings knowing that you are doing the best job you possibly can with the resources & skills that you currently have.
How do you handle the stress/guilt associated with mums trying to do it all?
I don’t like to language stress or guilt in my world as it doesn’t support me. My focus is always to have the self-talk that will serve me. As challenges arise as a mum, I ask myself some empowering questions. “What am I making this mean?”, “What am I learning from this?” “How can I make this better?” A powerful strategy for me is to celebrate daily gratitude. Focus on all of the things in our life that we are thankful for. There is abundance all around us if we stop & notice it.
In your business, you provide coaching and leadership around breaking through barriers and helping people reach their full potential. What tips from your professional capacity as a coach can you offer and what traits do you see as commonalities to working mothers that we can work on?
The journey of raising children is a continual learning. As human beings, we crave certainty & when we have our beautiful children, we are forced to embrace uncertainty which can feel scary. As our babies grow we have to adjust with each milestone. From starting to crawl, to all grown up and getting their licence. It is a continual adjustment. Our babies can be so unpredictable & not be able to communicate easily with us. Then they turn 20 & they may have totally different values or beliefs than you that you need to understand and learn from. Then when you think you’ve got the whole parenting thing nailed, your next child comes along & is completely different for your first one.
Some of my key top tips to thrive in parenting would be:
1. Develop an empowering mindset. Learn the strategies that will keep your mind healthy. Fill your mind with learnings & teachings that will serve you and if you can, get a coach.
2. Surround yourself with positive people that champion you. No negative Nancy’s. Choose the people that bring out the best in you & are your biggest supporters.
3. Filter feedback from others. When you have kids suddenly all the expert mums come out of the woodwork. Sometimes we can take on or reject feedback too easily. Remember that you have the power to take on board the feedback or not based upon what will serve you.
4. Identity. Yes you are a mum but you may also be a wife, sister, friend, painter, business woman etc. Remove language that doesn’t serve you like “I am a bad mother.” Remember to make time for you to fill up your bucket so that you can be the best version of yourself for others. Have that bath, take that yoga class, do things that are good for your soul.
5. Be the teacher & the student We love to teach our children things but remember that our children can also be our own best teacher. Be open to challenging your own beliefs & values. Try on some of the learnings. You may just learn something.
Janelle is an International Speaker & Leadership Trainer with extensive experience as a Human Behavioural Specialist working with top companies & individuals to achieve peak performance. you can connect with Janelle through her website, Facebook, LinkedIn or Instagram.